My wife and I have been married for a little over 2 years. She is my best friend and I can talk to her about anything. We have no kids and we would like to keep it that way for the time being. I want her to go on the pill again like she was in college. The pill afforded us spontaneity that condoms just can’t deliver. Now we are married and both have full time jobs and health insurance.
I suggested a few months ago that we go to the doctor and she get an exam (which she also refuses, more on this later), and I asked if she would go back on the pill. To say she got defensive and angry would be an understatement. After that I brought it up once more to more anger and defensiveness. Her two main arguments for not going are: 1) I don’t go to the urologist on a yearly basis and get my penis inspected and 2) she doesn’t want anybody poking around down there. As for the first reason I do a testicular exam about every month and I don’t need to get my prostate checked until I am 40. As for the second reason I know it’s embarrassing to have people you don’t know poking around down there but it’s over in a couple minutes and every man has been told to turn your head and cough. Also, keep in mind that its been almost 6 years since she has been to the gynecologist. I don’t want something happening right now that is preventable and not too late when she finally goes to the doctor.
My wife might have her periods roughly every 6-8 weeks and when she gets it she might get another period in 2 weeks. My wife has told me numerous times that she is worried about her period not being normal. I even made an appointment to see a doctor and she flipped out. I told her getting on the pill would regulate her periods and probably clear some of the breakouts she has from time to time and an exam would give her and me peace of mind.
My wifes best friend had a cyst the size of a baseball on her uterus that was discovered through a routine pelvic exam. She had surgery to remove it. I talked to my wife about this who immediately dismissed it as luck and said it wouldn’t happen to her. Are you freaking serious!!!! I also told her that my aunt had died from cervical cancer (I’m not lying about this) that had spread all over her body and could have been easily prevented with a 30 second pap smear. She dismissed it again as I don’t have cervical cancer. But how do you know? She replied with I just know and I know my body. To which I replied with but then why are your periods irregular? She said I was an asshole and walked out of the room.
At this point, I don’t even care about the birth control I just want her to get a pelvic exam and be healthy because I want to have kids with her someday. She won’t even get an exam for me.
We have health insurance so it won’t be expensive. Ladies please give my insight into my wife’s thinking. I’ve tried to reason with her logically but to no avail. I want her to be healthy and be around for a long time. Please help.

Is this something he should be concerned about?

I am a 24 year old male and still a virgin. I am attracted to women but can not get aroused enough to perform and have sex. I went to the doctor to have hormone tests done and my testosterone levels were normal and so were other sex hormones normal. I don’t understand how I have normal sex hormone levels but can’t get aroused for sex. I am sure I am not gay because I have never been attracted to a man and I am not under any stress so I dont think it’s psychological. Could my very low sex drive be down to brain chemistry or something. Will i ever be able to have a relationship with a very low sex drve? thanks for any help.
@jenn – I didn’t ask my doctor about ed but I will because that may be a problem but I think my inability to get it up is to do with my brain and not getting aroused enough but maybe there is a physical problem too. Lol i didn’t know Japanese girls had low sex drives, maybe i need to hook up with a japanese women.

I’m 17 and male.
I’ve always been hypersexual until about a year ago.
I went to my doctor about this, and did hormone tests, and they came up normal.

I’m freaked out and depressed. Would therapy help?

What could possibly be wrong?
im completely comfortable with sex and am not a virgin or anything.. Its like ive just suddenly become asexual

HELP?!

..i cant even get an erection anymore

My friend told me the other day that him and his girlfriend were
Just touching and he climaxed. He’s now suicidal… I just need to be able to tell him if there’s some help for him. Any help?

hello, I am a 26 year old married male who been married to my wonderful wife for almost one year now , the problem is that before marriage we both had this huge sex drive and we both couldnt get enough of each other , but with no penetration as we both wanted to wait till after the marriage , then after the marriage she began on birth pills but somehow her drive went from low to lower till its now , around 6 month now with no sex or oral intercourse whatso ever , she quited the pill lie 5 month ago , but still there is no improvment , i tried everything from candles to romance mood , to massages , i was wondering if the pill could affect her libido even after she stopped , and if so is there a way to regain it with out medical supplemnts, and if it really needed supplements , will we have to go on those supplements for ever or isit for a short period, pls help any one

im a 20 year old male and I have been on zoloft for 7 years. I believe the zoloft has killed my sex drive. my drive is so low to the point that I am impotent many times. If I get off zoloft will my sex drive increase? are the effects permanent? Im afraid that it will ruin future relationships.
nothing stimulates me much at all. Im afraid that I will not be able to come off the medicine, since i been on it so long.
could i have problems with post ssri sexual dysfuntion?

His only sister was murdered almost 2 yrs ago so he is scared of losing anyone else. I dont know a lot about prostate cancer and depending on web site on how bad this is. Please anyone who has had it or known someone explain the process to me. He just had some scope done and Dr. said looked good with camera but got results of biopsy today and shows cancer. He said Dr. said between 2-10 he is 5 on one side and 7 on other. What does that mean. He is 53 yr old white male not in greatest shape but other than asthma and overweight no real health probs. Thank you for all your help.

First off lets get something straight. I am a 19 year old man. I honestly believe within my sould I am a heterosexual. But before today I wasnt able to say the same thing. Let me give you a very brief history of my sexual life.
When I was young I had this weird foot fetish. I was about 4 years old, I remember I would wait till the older men in my house would go to sleep and I would lick their feet. By doing that I would get a huge sexual rush. I kept continuing that behavior till I was about 6 years old when I took my sexual perversions one step further. At that age I now began to sexualy molest my older borthers friends that would come over to spend the night. Like a sexual pervert I would wait until they would go to sleep and I would slowly unzip their pants and play with their penis and their buttocks. By doing this I would get the same sexual rush I was getting when I was 4 by playing with people’s feet. One time a 17 year old boy caught me in his pants while he was sleep. After that I was so ashambed that I never did it again. I was only seven years old.
Now lets fast foward a few years. From ages 9-13 My sexual perversion didnt subside, I just expressed them in different ways. While on the internet when I was 13 years old I accidently discovered gay porn. From that moment on, until today I would used that as a sexual escape for me. I would jack off to it until I came. I always felt bad by my actions because I knew they were wrong. So I would get rid of every single trace of gay porn that exicisted on my PC and I would promise I would never do it again. But when I felt horny again I would just re-download the gay porn again and start the cycle all over again. The sad part is every time I would just remind myself of how much I love women. Once I got to age 19 I discovered craigslist. I found some guy to have a hook up with. I went over his house and we had sex. The whole time I felt terrible. There was no sexual stimulation whatsoever. I wasnt into it and I hated every single moment of it. Infact, I felt like I was bieng used (as in being raped.) I tried to pretend I was feeling it but I wasn’t. Let me remind you, every single second of it was nasty, condemed, discusting, distasteful, and zero sexual stimulation. Infact I couldn’t cum because it was too natsy and I couldnt even really get stimulated. Before we had sex (but I guess it wasnt really sex for me becuase I never ejaculated, and I couldn’t get turned on), I knew I would feel bad about it, and I did. I told him how I was faking the whole time and I hated sex with boys, I also told him that I would never do it again, and I told him that it was most pointless, pationless, thing I ever done in my life. He understood…
The trail I follwed since a child was now clear to me. I was litterlay sexually molesting people when I was only a baby (ages 4-7). As a child I am supposed to be blissful and playing with other children. instead I was acting as if I was sexual pervert. As far as men go, it’s complicated. For instance, Im not attracted to men in a romantical way, it was always, only about the sex. But I still dont understand why a child would display these sexually perverted behaviors. When I was younger I witnessed my brothers and mother being abused by my fahter. My older brother used to abuse me physically and there was mild sexual abuse that he did to me as well. Maybe that has something to do with my strange behavior as a baby that ultimately snowballed to where I had sex with another guy. But in a way it was a bitter-sweet expereince. It was bitter because I felt like I was litterly being raped and I had no pleasure whats so ever in what I was doing. It was sweet because I realised at that moment how much I DON’T like males. Again I was taunted about how much I love women (in the most heterosexual way possible.) At that moment I felt every desire to be with a man (sexually) completly melt away into oblivion. Im not really sad it happened becuase I knew it was bound to happen. I just belived it was an eye opener to put the dirty past behind me… for good.
So I wrote all of this to ask you all: Do you all think Im gay? Or, do I have some kind of mental problem that followed me from childhood to my young adulthood, and it needed to be handeled by me finally realizing that I dont like men?! Or, is this just a normal part of life that I just needed to expereince (but in actuality Im not gay)? Or, maybe I need to see a therapist? Please give me your honest opnions, becuase I really want them. And please DON’T say Im in denial, because based on my life’s history I dont think that’s the case.

15, male. I have social anxiety disorder, introverted and get interested in a hobby, intensely, then go to another hobby and get interested, intensely.

There is this person I really hate. He was annoyed me by grabbing me by behind and I punched him hard after that. It felt great to punch him. He left me alone after that.

This was in school. I trained a lot over the summer and I know I’m stronger than him. But I still worry he’ll try to annoy me again. He might be stronger verbally and that’s what I worry about. As I think about him, there is an intense desire to beat the crap out of him.

My brother was being negative as usual and insulted me for some dumb reason. Immediately, I got a vivid desire to beat him up or at least punch him. I luckily ignored the desire and simply insulted him back.

My sexual fantasies consist of hitting, spitting on, humiliating, etc. Beating the crap out of women and still have them pleasure you, that really turns me on. I’m very capable of rape as well. But I won’t rape anyone, because it’s illegal, unfortunately. Sorry honey!

Will this desire of violence get worse as I age? Is this some sort of mental disorder, what is it called?
Is this from the extra testosterone from working out?