Hi. My girlfriend and I have been dating exclusively for over 5 years and we are both 20 now. When we started having sex a few years ago, we determined it would be a good idea for her to start taking birth control pills.

She started with Ortho Tri Cyclen Lo, but it made her spot very frequently. She visited her Dr. and got a pill with a higher dosage of hormones: Ortho Cyclen. She was on this for quite some time, but if she did not take it at EXACTLY the same time, she would have two week long periods. She visited a school clinic and they switched her to the generic form of Mircette called Kariva. She has been on this for just about 2 months now.

She has been on some form of birth control pills for probably about two years. I have noticed a great lack in her sex drive, especially recently. It is hard to say how she was before she started taking pills since we didnt have sex until she started taking them.

Being a young man, I believe I have an average/above average libido, but her’s seems to be almost none. I am almost always the one to suggest sex or any other type of business, and it is really starting to bother me. She does certain things and enjoys them in the process, but I really sense no passion from her and when its my turn it seems more like she’s doing it just to pay me back. She’s not against getting busy by any means, but I feel like if I never initiate it it will never happen. This bothers me as I want us both to be comfortable and feelings to be mutual.

Is it possible that cessating her BCP regimen will bring things to a more normal level? I have to say that we have a unique relationship compared to most teens because we are very serious and have had deep feelings for each other for 5 years strong. I would never ever leave her because of one thing that bothers me, I will learn to deal with it. But, things would be much more plesant if we were on the same page so to speak.

We’ve talked about it only recently because I debated for a long time whether I should just deal with it or risk hurting her feelings. She really wishes she could feel the same way I do about sex, but can’t just snap her fingers and make it so. So that is when I suggested maybe it is her pills doing it as it is a common side effect, and maybe stopping for a few months could be a benefit. What do you folks think?

**I truly appreciate it if you read this whole thing and can offer any of your wisdom. Thank you!

Im just wondering.. Ive always had a Very high sex drive.. and probly been with around 18 males in my life.. Recently i had the perfect lover.. And had a high sex drive to him.. But we broke up and since then i was depressed and 0 sex drive.. its been 3 months and i got a new lover.. but he isent nearly as good looking or experienced as my Ex. I tryed to do a open realtionship and i cant find a sex drive in any one they all seem like they are not sexualy attrative.. Even guys id die to have sex with.. look like nothing.. Even odder.. i went with my ex somewhere and i was turned off by him aswell..

When i think of sex i miss.. Is probly the last time i was with my Ex.. And he probably did me for the best sex ever.. And i cant really.. Feel sexual pleasure any more..

I tryed toping to change it up.. and i Got soft very fast.. And couldn’t even stay hard.. I tryed to bottom and it dident work.. i enjoyed it but something in the back of my head i cant really read.. Hinders it..

I wanna enjoy sex again i feel like il never enjoy it again.. What my issue?
As for the 2 answers.. not quite the deal.. Tryed topping a chick and nothing.. Also.. i can get hard and come.. I just dont feel.. Enjoyment from sex.. is the issue.. I usably cum about 3 times per day
Its pycological

Don’t laugh ladies, I know I’m not the only one in the world with this problem. I know that their is no physiological reason for this either (for me anyway), but I have a high sex drive. I spoke with my doctor & he stated that some women make higher levels of testostrone then others; in turn causing a higher sex drive. I feel that it’s a curse that mens libdios are lower as they age.
Why is it that men’s sexual peak is at 18 and womens are at 40 (or in my case 30)? Is that not the cruelist joke that nature has for all of us? Older women have told me to date younger men, realistically, I find the older (5-10yrs.older) more attractive. So that doesn’t solve my problem. Serious opinions and ideas only!! P.S. Masturbating isn’t my thing, so please don’t suggest this. I am not overly consumed with this, I’m active and excercise, have plenty of hobbies. I dont think about it, this is more of a physical drive. Hope you can help, I want opinions from a woman & a male perspective

I started birth control about 4 yrs ago (Estrostep), and never noticed any side effects that I couldn’t handle…about 9 mos. ago, I switched from Estrostep to Necon b/c of insurance, and then switched again to Yaz about 3 months ago. I have also been on various antidepressants for about 3 years – most recently Welbutrin…again, no side effects that really concerned me–until (relatively) recently. For about the past year, I have been excessively tired and have absolutely NO sex drive. When I do have sex, it’s only because I feel badly for my poor boyfriend…it’s painful – and I have no lubrication ‘down there.’ I’m upset because I don’t know if this is medication-related…and it’s frustrating because I don’t know WHICH freakin prescrip it is!! I’m nervous about discontinuing either medication….but my relationship with a perfect man is really suffering!

Sorry this is so long-winded….any advice? Thanks!!
My ob/gyn suggested staying on Yaz for about another 3 months, and that if things don’t improve, to consider the Nuva Ring (sp?) for birth control instead…she suggested talking to my psychiatrist about lowering my Wellbutrin dosage (I had been taking 450 mg–highest allowable dosage).

My psychiatrist, on the other hand, is not on board with lowering Wellbutrin, but says that he wished my ob/gyn had suggested taking away the birth control and NOT the Wellbutrin.

*sigh*

As of a few weeks ago, I have been taking only 300 mg of Wellbutrin (at doc’s ‘ok’), and am still in the middle of a Yaz pack…I’m just frustrated because I feel like I’ve (we’ve) been dealing with this for a year, trying to figure out what’s causing it–and I’m losing patience.

A year is a long time, ya know?
but thank you for the input so far, ladies!

Mojo Risen Video Commercial…

I’m 20 years old and started on Yasmin about four months ago.
Now I’m not saying I was a complete horndog before or anything.. but let’s just say I had quite a healthy libido.

The past few weeks though I’ve realized that I don’t have that same drive whenever my man and I have sex. I still WANT to have sex with him, but I feel like I am lacking the passion/drive I had before.
So I looked up side effects for Yasmin and sure enough, lots of other women out there have lost their sex drive all together since being on this birth control.

Switching birth control may not be an option, since I do not have health insurance and had to acquire it by visiting the health department, and I would rather not go off of it all together either. The lack of worry about getting pregnant and not to mention my increased bust size are things I’d like to keep.

So I guess I’m really asking if anyone knows ANYTHING that could help boost my sex drive? Any suggestions would be great.

Also my orgasms are not the same as they use to be, they are less intense. Im a 19 year old male, healthy, i excercise dont smoke or have any health issues, im not depressed either, or taking any meds.
It just seems i dont get horny anymore and i dont see women in a sexual way as much as i use to.

i have normally 4 times of sex activity per week i need some enhancing remedial natural measure to perform deep anal sex?

since january he said he just doesn’t even want 2 have an orgasism or care. he works alot and his teenage daughter is living with him and getting into alot of trouble. i think he is just stressed out and it will pass. please help guys mostly bcz u know how the male body works or doesn’t. he says it isn’t me and pleasures me but he can’t even get an erection. we have talked and he is very frusrated so i try noy to make a big deal out of it so he doesn’t get it in his head and then he reall won’t be able to snap out of it.

I’ve had serious issues with depression in the past, which I am over thanks to anti-depressants. However it’s gotten to the point that I am very rarely aroused, and when I am it wasn’t very easy to get to that point. I even find it almost impossible to fantasize sexually for the purpose of masturbation unless I either have a crush on some girl or am actually dating her. I can’t really visualize it otherwise and it’s only minimally arousing.

I’m a 22 year old male, so I am aware this is not normal. Could someone please tell me what is going on and how to make things change?
Oh and these issues started about a year and a half ago when I was seriously depressed, before I went on anti-depressants. Since the anti-depressants I’ve actually seen a marked improvement.