Soreness After Sex…?
Now some of you might flame me for this because I know that the Men’s Health section is full of manly men… haha But anyways.
I’m am 13 years old, not really developed(I have very few pubic hairs) and I’m gay. I lost my virginity two days ago to an older guy. He was pretty large and after two days I’m still really sore.
Like it hurts when i stand, sit, or anything.
And it hurts really really bad.
I’ve heard from other people on here that since I’m not fully developed it can cause some problems or permanent damage.
There is no bleeing or anything.
So please help.
No hating on my sexual orientation please.
February 23rd, 2010 at 9:34 am
In the gay section, you said the person you gave your virginity to was a little older than you.
The soreness was caused by a lack of sexual experience. Your anus isn’t designed like a vagina. You can’t just stick it in and drill for oil. Of course with gas at $4 a gallon… LOL!
A little bit of bleeding the next day is not uncommon. But I have never known anyone to get an infection. If there is no bleeding you will heal. It’s just a case of being too aggressively penetrated.
Try this next time.
Have him is a sitting position in a couch or chair. Recliner, even better.
Slowly lower yourself down on his shaft. This puts you in control of the initial penetration process. You may have to re-lube two or three times b4 you hit bottom. Once you have bottomed out, engage in some erotic kissing while your anus adjusts to his girth. Then slowly start working yourself up and down his shaft while he strokes ur penis in rhythm to your motions.
This is the procedure i have found that works best for curious first timers. The fact that they are in charge of their own penetration allows them to open at their own pace, substantially reducing pain levels while dramatically increasing pleasure levels.
Once you become more accustomed to being anally penetrated, you can give control back over to him. But make sure he enters more slowly next time. That is where the soreness comes in.
And plz stay safe.
Hope this helped, my young friend
February 23rd, 2010 at 9:59 am
uv probably just bruised yourself.
try lots of lubrication next time and make sure your relaxed, or try buying a small anal toy so that you can get used to.
i loosen myself up with an anal dildo before me and my boyfriend have anal sex.
February 23rd, 2010 at 2:16 pm
I think you answereed you own question. its ovious it was your first time, and he was large. anal sex will take some getting use too. and he is probably going to be back for more , to be able to see he broke you in. you better be careful.. you can end up with HIV,,
February 23rd, 2010 at 4:37 pm
Sore is probably to be expected for your first time. I get sore for about a day from anal sex sometimes. Just use more lube next time and take things a bit slower. Gradual stretching to get the muscle relaxed
February 23rd, 2010 at 8:51 pm
i just have one question how can you lose your virginity if your gay ..is not as if you have sex du you ?:S its a question btw so dont tke me rong