sex question for men (guess i’ll ask in men’s health)?
my man and i have done the dirty at least twice a day for the two years we’ve been together. do the math, that’s ALOT. i guess my question is do you guys really prefer quantity over quality? because frankly, i’m becoming a bit bored, and it’s starting to seem like an obligation. how to convince him that building a little sexual tension is a good thing, and would make the sex hotter for me?
September 12th, 2010 at 1:05 pm
i think you should express your feelings to him if you have not already. and i prefer quality over quantity. i hope it works out. <3
September 12th, 2010 at 1:37 pm
Guys of all ages but especially younger guys are horny animals. And we’re generally pretty easy to please. But we do get bored of routine.
However simply changing the positions you use is sometimes enough. You can use role playing too. For example with a prior girlfriend of mine we had “role playing Tuesday” because we worked most of the week and Tuesday was just one of our days together. But every Tuesday we would role play different themes – Cops catching a naughty bad girl, sexy lingerie, nurse treating … my ummm… condition in my pants… and so forth. But we never got bored with the sex and we did it A LOT. But apart from that you know you can invent new sex potitions you can incorperate porn or various food items. Another girlfriend of mine had this sexy coresette with these booty shorts and fishnet leggings… it was hot to say the least. I never got bored of that and we did it all the time too.
I think one of the key factors to having great sex with someone you care about is intimacy and there are dozens if not plainly endless ways you can be intimate with your partner. One of things I used to do with my last ex is while going at it doggy style I’d lean in kiss the back of her neck and ears or massage her shoulders and around her sacrum (lower back).
On the other hand maybe you just need a break from sex. I know that if you do it a lot you can sort of desensitize yourself to it. So maybe just take a week or two break.
September 12th, 2010 at 2:11 pm
cheat
September 12th, 2010 at 3:05 pm
I’m a quality over quantity guy myself. But your dude has this incredible need to breed. He could be one of those rare people who have to have sexual stimulation often.
September 12th, 2010 at 3:39 pm
I like quantity, and quality. And the two are not exclusive of each other. One can have both. You just have to keep it exciting, maybe do some experimenting, try some things that you have not done yet.
However, I do understand where you’re coming from. If you’re always doing it in the same ways at roughly the same times it can get a bit mundane and “robotic”.
Like I said, try to interject some excitement. Ask him to be more romantic, maybe book a weekend getaway at a nice hotel, introduce some toys into your foreplay, maybe some role playing. Or maybe challenge each other to see who can go the longest without it, including masturbation.
First and foremost, you have to talk to each other. Be open and honest, caring and respectful.