Men: What Would You Think Of This?
I know this is in men’s health and this may not have to do entirely with that, but I really need an honest male response.
Anyhow, how would you feel about dating a really nice woman, but the only sexual activity she would feel comfortable doing is performing oral sex on you. Nothing else, especially any touching towards her. Would you immediately break up with her? Or would your feelings towards her mind and personality bypass this? Thanks for any replies.
February 20th, 2010 at 5:10 pm
well i would try to let her know that i’d think she was Beautiful and that id like to “pay her back” for the oral sex
February 20th, 2010 at 7:51 pm
I could live with it. But are there underlying issues as to no reciprocation of the actions for example self conscious, poor body image low self esteem etc? To me I think oral sex is more an action that is performed on someone you respect and trust, or at least should be for a ‘nice girl’. I would hope that over time she would become more comfortable in the relationship, but if nothing changed I’d break up eventually.
February 21st, 2010 at 12:20 am
You know.. if you aren’t ready for sex, then there is a guy around for you. That isnt going to be a guy like me. I dont mind fellatio but if I can’t get involved in exciting my partner….. I don’t really enjoy it very much…. Also, I think a guy can sense if you are enjoying yourself… it just isn’t exciting if the person going down is not having fun too.
I offer this advice as it is better to abstain than to do something you don’t feel comfortable with or enjoy doing. There is no need to worry about finding a man right for you… or having sex just to keep one on the leash….. there will be teh right guy for you with the same attitude to sex…. and you can explore it together when you are ready.
Edit:
Perhaps I havent made this clear… as a teenager I had long relationships (you know.. 6 months and stuff) with gals where no intercourse was involved… but what you are proposing is sort of like teasing not so much as pleasing.
February 21st, 2010 at 12:39 am
If she is REALLY special, I would take the time to talk with her to find out why that’s as far as she will go. Maybe our relationship could develop and she could become more willing to have a fuller physical relationship over time, but that would depend on how the relationship developed. I don’t think a relationship between a man and a woman is based solely on sex, but it IS an imporant part of a “complete” relationship and fellatio is only part of that.
February 21st, 2010 at 5:43 am
I prefer walking, talking and holding hands first to develop a relationship. Why would you think of lowering yourself to try to please a man sexually this way if you don’t even want to be held is someones arms. I’m not going to lie to you as good as oral sex feels it’s far better when I please a woman in the same way. It’s a two way street hun.
I can’t believe you don’t even like a nice kiss.
February 21st, 2010 at 12:11 pm
Well I would be happy to get head, but i may end it after a while. I mean I would sound like a pig, but I am always looking ahead, to go further. I may stay with her for a while, getting head and just enjoying her as a person, with hope that may she would change her ways, but I wouldn’t be able to have a happy relationship for too long
February 21st, 2010 at 4:42 pm
I wouldn’t mind at first, but I think it would get old.
Do you mean you wouldn’t do anything else EVER, or just until you get used to the idea?
Or do you have an STD you don’t want anyone to know about?