Am I Bisexual If I Only Have Fantasies About One Boy And Just One Boy?
Hi, I’m 15 years old and I really really like this boy who is 13 years old. I don’t know what it is but I just have a soothing pleasure when i’m in his company. Last night I had a sleep over with my strange nephew (who is 13) and this boy called Gregor who I’ve known for years, its only since hes been going through puberty I’ve been staring to get attracted to him. I could go on and on describing his really mature personality and fantastic looks with peal white uniform teeth but anyway, us 3 ran out of space to sleep in the night and I thought we could sleep downstairs in the extension. So we got our covers and went down to the extension in my house and shared each others secretes… He said nothing at all (that was big) my nephew told his and then i taken about 15 mins to say “if i was a girl i would go out with you (Gregor)”, about 3 mins later my nephew told him i fancied him! Gregor was shocked and disturbed for the first 2 mins but then just said “oh i didn’t think i was that good looking” so you’re bi then?”, I said i don’t know. We are all in a strong Christian branch of religion that don’t agree with homosexuality at all, and i don’t want to give up god! (I’M NOT ASKING FOR YOU TO TELL ME ITS OKAY TO BE BI) so long story cut short – he hasn’t had any fantasies about males and he said he hasn’t looked at a male and said “he’s fit” in his head (I asked him and made him promise to *******). Later on that night we went to bed (three of us on the sofa, it was too cold on the floor) and i lied next to him with my boxer shorts on and tried to go to sleep, he is mardy or emotional for a male and said he wouldn’t mind it if i put my arm around him,(he said “I’m not being gay, just if you wanna” then he put his legs over mine and we just fell asleep (he’s as straight as a ruler, i can assure you that but yet he teases me by “joking around” and doing sexual stuff in front of me!!! anyway me enjoying this and having weird dreams with him in them doesn’t help. does this mean i’m a bisexual? its only with him and maybe if i’m shopping in Tesco i might see a teenager who is good looking and be like “he’s fit” and just walk past?
I’m so confused to if i’m bi or its just my teenage hormones flying allover the place, I wont give up anything for my religion, but i just wanted to know. Oh also i’m really fussy with girls and tend to think girls are worse looking than males unless she IS good looking. Anyway thanks for your answers guys. I will pick a best answer 
(PS. i started getting these feeling since i was 13, but I’ve always got a stiffie when i seen a penis since i was like 5 years old, Gregor said he got the same with the stiffie thing)
January 2nd, 2011 at 1:49 pm
Well, and please excuse this if it seems too overt, but it does not seem you are bisexual, but more homosexual. In all honesty, these are just labels, and I sincerely doubt everyone fits under them. You do not have to “be” either of them, you do not need to squeeze yourself into a certain title. You can just be you, and as your life progresses and you discover more and have more experiences, perhaps you can then define yourself under “bisexual”, “straight”, or “homosexual” or something completely different. The language is all relative. What really matters is finding someone you love that loves you back, be them male or female, and knowing that it is okay to love them. Just discover what you like, without thinking about what that “means” (means for your religion, society, family) and let that make you happy, no matter what it is.
Good luck!